The Independent Woman

Hello lovelies!!!

Might I begin by asking you to please refer to http://thabullpen.blogspot.com/2011/10/club-dj-lifestyle-independent-woman.html

Read it?
Got it?
Get it?
Good.
Now let's play devil's advocate.....

First and foremost - allow me to begin by stating that I agree 100% with Mr. Eno Bull. After a brief conversation with him I stated that I agree with where he is coming from and can understand how he came to his conclusion but that as a woman, I also see the other side of the story. His response "I need to read that"! - Well, here it goes.

As E.Bull stated, I cannot speak for ALL women - we were all created different, have endured different trials and respond to situations very differently. However, I do believe that I can speak for a portion of us.

NO woman WANTS to do it all alone and if you tell me otherwise, I will call the bullshit card on you. I don't care who you are - where you're from - how you've been raise or how much money you make ... You do not want to do it all alone. It is not the way we were designed. It is not how we were wired. Woman was created from the rib of man. Naturally, we would seek eachother's companionship (We can get into same sex situations at a later blog). I am going to take the same music route as Eno -- Destiny's Child Bills, Bills, Bills. First and foremost, this song is not ASKING a man to pay the bills... It is stating that if you (as a man) are going to be sitting around on the couch all day, driving my car and running up my phone bill then you need to be putting up some cash in exchange for the use of these things. She is NOT willing to maintain no one. She aint yo momma! This is a partnership hunnie. Give and take. HOWEVER, I do realize that the majority of the world did not receive the message and therefore took it to mean that she is asking a man to pay her bills. Ok. I get it. Let's just go with that. Then we move on to Independent Woman. Where we are now proclaiming independence and stating how we can do bad by our damn selves. You are NOT needed. Here is my theory:

Simple and sweet... We dont not like people throwing shit in our face.

I'll give you a moment to digest that.....

Men (some, not all) are real quick to snap off at the tongue about how much they do for us. "Well, I put this roof over your head. I bought you those shoes. I put food on the table. I bring home the bacon" Blah Blah Blah Bullshit Bullshit Bullshit. Even worst, these things sometimes came with a pricetag - "Well, I pay the rent here which means you gotta XYZ. WHEN I SAY SO" Telling your friends "I gotta do EVERYTHING for this bitch"! It came to a point where women were being second class citizens in thier own homes at the hands of thier men. You can only push a woman BUT so far before she starts pushing back. Proclaiming independence was the woman's way of "Pushing Back". If your sole purpose on this earth is to remind me of how much you do for me, allow me to show you the door and watch me work! I do not need a constant cloud hanging over my head, reminding me that everything I own is at the strength of YOUR blood, sweat and tears because darling, allow me to remind you that the house is clean because of me. Your dinner is made because of me. The clean clothes you are wearing? Me. I was the one who reminded you to call your mother today. Its her birthday. I plan the family trips. I make time for the things you dont have time for. I keep this family together. I keep you ontop of your doctor's appointments. I make the parent/teacher conferences. I get up every morning - just like you and make this household work and run like a muthaeffin business! I stretch every penny you give me to provide for this house. This house is never lacking and it is because I made it my duty, as a woman, to be sure of that. Your children are never hungry and your bed is never cold. But this goes unoticed - and all YOU can focus on is the dollar sign.

A woman's biggest motivator is "You can't". Tell me I can't and I'll show you I can. "You can't do anything without me". Oh really hunnie? That's how you feel?

BAM! Back in school
BAM! Bachelor's Degree
BAM! Apartment, Car, Fly bags, Hot shoes
Vacations
VIP
ALL courtesy of ME

After we set out to prove that we CAN do this thing called life on our own. We like it. You don't. All of a sudden we stuck up. We don't know how to act. We high saddity. We too damn independent. We wanna throw it in your face. We can never win with you guys!
If we sit at home birthing babies - we are bum birds with no future and at MOST a jump off
If we out there tryin to make it - We stuck up. Man haters. Fronters.

Really dude? Like seriously, get your life together.

Like I started out saying - We WANT someone to share with. We WANT companionship. Hell, we WANT someone to split the bills with! But just like you, I'm not willing to provide the food AND the table we eat it off of. This is a partnership. We are building TOGETHER here. Forgive me if I am not willing to settle for less than I deserve.



Now let's move on to the club scene. This too will be short and sweet.

Fellas. I love ya. I really do. But here's the thing - and PLEASE take heed to this --> If a woman is feelin you.. She will stick around even if you do NOT buy her a drink! (ladies, Im sorry FORGIVE ME! lol). So please cut the sob story "Ohhh she played me! She had me buy her mad drinks n dipped" Yup, that's exactly what happened. You got played booboo and I can't be mad at her lol. You allowed it!
 If she ASKS you to buy her a drink - RUN! She's a bird.
When my girls n me hit the club - we pop bottles. We buy our own damn drinks. SHITT we send drinks over to any dude we find sexy! (hahahah great times with the BFF lol) We walk out the door with debit cards, credit cards, lip gloss n cash! Pow!

But seriously - if she's intersted in you, she'll stick around even if you don't immediately offer to buy her a drink (This does NOT mean that you should not buy her a drink. But feel her out first. Is she feelin you? Has she ditched an invite from her friends to stick with you? Eye contact? C'mon baby! You know these things! - Quit getting mesmerized by the short dress n high heels and use common sense! Bcuz tomm morning she do NOT look like that. Trust) But if you feelin her and she feelin you - prove to her that chivalry is not dead. Buy her a drink. Find her a seat. Compliment her shoes. Open doors and offer napkins.

Also, it doesn't hurt to know how to 1, 2 step... Don't make me do all the work. If I whine pon you make sure u whine pon me too! hahahaha follow my rhythm. Make it about the dance NOT about the body.

I think I might be done here.


Till next time folks.


Be Blessed& Be a Blessing

-Roxii


Sidenote: I am NOT putting all men and all women into ONE category. Obviously there will be people who fit the bill and people who dont. I am simply going by observation. If at any moment you took offense - I would examine that. PeaceLove&Blessings folks.